Recently work in geography has become increasingly concerned with how we understand the subject. This has often revolved around a critique of the ways in which the subject has been traditionally understood – as a mental entity organizing, and so existing prior to, experience. In its place, a relationally conceived subject has been posited, one which emerges through a combination of embodied experience and (increasingly) haunting absent presences. However, this work has yet to think through the implications of this critique for how we understand intersubjective relations. If a subject is not self-present, how can we be present to and for other subjects? What remains of the intersubjective when any such subject entering into a relation has already been decentred? In response to these questions, the paper draws on the work of Jean-Luc Nancy to develop an understanding of subjectivity and so intersubjectivity as movements of presencing whereby the subject is always in approach to itself and others, but is never actually reached, never self present, always already receding; there is a spacing at the heart of any relation. This is developed and illustrated in light of an event of encounter between a street performer and a member of their audience which is performatively narrated so as to expose and re-present the spacing inherent in such relations.